Internal Family Systems

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a way of understanding ourselves as made up of different parts - aspects of us that each hold their own roles, beliefs and feelings. Some parts’ roles try to keep us safe by protecting and defending against what’s feels difficult. Others carry painful memories from the past. Some parts work hard to manage how we come across in the world. Our parts are hard working allies though sometimes feel more like saboteurs causing overwhelm and confusion. Our parts have been deeply misunderstood and as a result, we feel conflicted and perhaps even hatred towards ourself and/or others.

Self and Healing

Alongside these parts IFS recognises that there is a deeper presence within us, often referred to as Self. Self is not something we have to create or make happen, it is not something we have to get right or achieve. At bottom, it is who we are and this can bring great relief to the parts of us that have been struggling to hold the fort, seemingly alone.

People often describe “Self energy” as having a sense of calm, curiosity, connection, courage, creativity, compassion and confidence (the 8 c’s) With these qualities available to us, we are able to relate differently to what’s been hard to accept and manage.

All Parts Are Welcome

Some parts may feel cautious, skeptical and unsure about therapy. These parts are welcomed and respected. We take time to understand what they need before moving further. As the work unfolds, we begin to explore your inner world together, noticing different parts as they arise, understanding their roles and intentions, gradually building a relationship with them. Often parts that are critical, anxious, or overwhelmed are trying, in their own way to help. When they are no longer met with judgment and resistance, something begins to shift.